The Shadow has been trying to understand something every since he started having sex. In order to not prolong your interest he will just jump right into it. Not into some booty but into a man’s ongoing dilemma:Why in the world do women think that giving up there cookie/biscuit means that they have just ‘honored’ the selected man? Passed on a priceless artifact?
The Shadow does acknowledge that having sex supposedly means something more to females. Yeah, right! They may just be making that up so that they will not feel cheap.
The Shadow wants to put women on notice: Giving it up to a man may indicate something special to you – but it does not mean a damn thing to most men. Actually, men can care less about the complexities women may have experienced around making the decision to prop-up her legs or to get down on her knees and palm of her hands (just read some research that indicates that more women prefer The Doggie Style – so non-intimate).
The Shadow and his cohorts (other perplexed men) also are not thinking that they are ‘special’ because a young lady had sex with them. Men see it as two people that decided to behave like the animals that humans are. Unrestricted. In the flesh!
Honor and prestige are certainly not what men feel when the female leaves satisfied (MOST research suggests that women are RARELY satisfied with sex).
So my question, phrased in a more DIRECT way:
What is it about a woman’s vagina that elevates it to an exclusive category?
The Shadow would like for women to know that just because she had sex with a man it does not mean that he sees it as the best thing that has ever happened to him. Women must understand this! Men see it as another ‘piece’ that he got. An encounter. Not a multi-million dollar prize.
So, The Shadow concludes with a request:
Ladies, please know that the value of your cookie is not of extreme value to many men. If you value it that much I suggest you only give that platinum pu**y to He who is truly Worthy.
Written by The Shadow, the voice of men who want to be bluntly honest with his feelings.
*If I generalized too much for the men reading - my message to the men:
Please stop lying like you have never been the man I am speaking about.
Reader Response:
ReplyDeleteI read the subject line and my first reaction was...Hell ya! As one of my older patient's said, "you women don't know you're sitting on a gold mine!"
And I agree with most of what you wrote, but after reading Steve Harvey and your blog, I can't help but think....Is this the best you guys have to offer? You guys are pigs and we should just accept that? I don't know, I guess the one thing that I believe as a feminist/masculinist/genderist is this: if you don't expect better you ain't never going to get it. I think many times we go about making excuses for y'all, saying that men are just programmed this way and what not, but I'm going to stand my ground and say that I think you guys actually enjoy having an emotional connection as well as a physical one, and the older you get the more you want the emotional part...
In the meantime, I'm gonna be taking care of my goldmine! :)
-SN
The Shadow responds to SN:
ReplyDeleteCherish that goldmine.
Please accept that the majority of men are "pigs". Some get 'better' with age - but most remain womanizers if given the opportunity.
I would prefer NOT to be connected emotionally. It is to taxing!
-The Shadow
Reader SN responds to The Shadow:
ReplyDeleteoh NO!!! Please don't tell me The Shadow has become one of those guys!
Sweetheart, darlin....you sound like you got the bitter bite going on, and as some one who has loved you dearly, I hope you SNAP OUT OF IT!
yes, love is hard, yes, the emotional connection is work and can drain you out. But, it is what makes the world go round, and is the best part of the ride. It truly saddens me if you choose to sit that part of the ride out from here on out. :(
And I recognize the bitter bite cuz I've been there, but I made my altar, and prayer/ faith in my angels/ancestors as well as my god has unfrozen my heart. Sorry babe, if you like or not I'm going to include your heart in my prayers too....
Love ya my Shadow! :)
-SN
The Shadow Responds to SN:
ReplyDeletenot bitter. just not interested in all the work it takes. nope. i am fine without it.
-The Shadow