"If we're going to point fingers at men behaving badly, we have to take a look at the women's behavior that may provoke it." -Wendy AtterberryCheating
I like the way Atterberry addressed the topic. I am certain there are women reading who believe a man should NEVER cheat. However, some women are the impetus of the cheating. Yes, it is actually the female's fault in some cases.
-The Shadow
Reader Response:
ReplyDeletecheating is NEVER the fault of someone else...own up to the cheating..if you are unhappy and being treated like crap get out of the relationship (as with Jon and Kate) Two wrongs make it right?
please
-TK
The Shadow responds to TK:
ReplyDeleteStop whining.
-The Shadow
TK responds to The Shadow:
ReplyDeleteNot whining..just reality. Peeps need to be responsible for their own actions...no one person can make someone cheat..they can certainly push them towards being unhappy!
stop looking for excuses!
The Shadow responds to TK:
ReplyDeletekate (from Jon and Kate plus Eight) has harassed her husband to the point of infidelity.
tk, please understand that a woman can literally push a man to the point of seeking comfort with someone else. i have been there.
read what i wrote:
"...some women are the impetus of the cheating."
note the word impetus.
-The Shadow
TK responds to The Shadow:
ReplyDeletei hear you and see what you are referring to but in the end..its the person who is being pushed responsibility to make the right or wrong choice.....and it goes both ways..not just the woman pushing the man....
-TK
Reader Response:
ReplyDeleteI have said it before and I'll say it again. Cheating IS NOT restricted to sexual infidelity. The male in the relationship is normally villified because it has been taught in our culture that females are usually "victims" when relationships go sour. This mentality makes it easier to place blame and harder to self-assess. Everytime I go out to a public venue I see droves of women. Often times, I wonder if these women would prefer to be with a man that respects, values, and desires to spend time with her. I listen to the "Strawberry Letter" on the Steve Harvey show and 90% of the time a woman is writing about being victimized by some man. Rarely do you hear women expressing their roles in relationships gone sour. No, men should not CHEAT on his woman. At the same time a woman should not do many of the things that she refuses to acknowledge like: lie, deceive, or manipulate.
-PM