Recently, on two separate occasions two different women told me in essence:
'You are not necessarily a good catch.'
One indicated that I could not afford her and the other implied that I do not have time for her due to the fact that I have parental responsibilities.
For the past 3 weeks I have been thinking about their assertions/opinions/
I must admit I was somewhat taken a back...I actually developed an attitude. I began to get pissed off as the days passed. I eventually calmed down, and took a few moments to think a little more about their words/decisions and my feelings.
I certainly understand we all have standards and certain selection criteria. I also understand that these beautiful -in all the ways that I prefer- have a right to be selective.
What I typically do when a justification on why someone will not do something is presented to me: I become somewhat defensive if I have conceded to do the opposite before in my lifetime.
'You are not necessarily a good catch.'
One indicated that I could not afford her and the other implied that I do not have time for her due to the fact that I have parental responsibilities.
For the past 3 weeks I have been thinking about their assertions/opinions/
I must admit I was somewhat taken a back...I actually developed an attitude. I began to get pissed off as the days passed. I eventually calmed down, and took a few moments to think a little more about their words/decisions and my feelings.
I certainly understand we all have standards and certain selection criteria. I also understand that these beautiful -in all the ways that I prefer- have a right to be selective.
What I typically do when a justification on why someone will not do something is presented to me: I become somewhat defensive if I have conceded to do the opposite before in my lifetime.
For
example, I have willingly/freely/without judgment dated several women
who could fall under the characterization of the above "Not Necessarily a
Good Catch". I have been the boyfriend of a couple of women who had
children at the time. I have also dated COUNTLESS women and became Mr.
Boyfriend to quite a few females who were essentially broke...busted.
Additionally, I personally know a number of good men who have become
involved with single mothers and financially challenged women.
This confirms to me that men are quite tolerant when these so called barriers are realities. Just think about the men you know who have been daddy to kids that were not his own...think about that brother who was bill payer for women. Think about them...These men looked pass the 'unbecoming characteristics' - and dived in...into to the relationship with Baby Momma and/or Mrs. Penniless.
SO, I have a question:
Why have many of these women decided to PASS on a Broke Brother and/or active Baby Daddy when IN FACT if the scenario/situation was reversed the man would disregard the 'bad characteristics' - and embrace the female?
This confirms to me that men are quite tolerant when these so called barriers are realities. Just think about the men you know who have been daddy to kids that were not his own...think about that brother who was bill payer for women. Think about them...These men looked pass the 'unbecoming characteristics' - and dived in...into to the relationship with Baby Momma and/or Mrs. Penniless.
SO, I have a question:
Why have many of these women decided to PASS on a Broke Brother and/or active Baby Daddy when IN FACT if the scenario/situation was reversed the man would disregard the 'bad characteristics' - and embrace the female?
The Shadow
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