Female Emotionalism in the Workplace: Menstruation and Cattiness

Picture taken from the 1939 film, The Women.

Believe it or not, I tip-toe with my commentary. Sometimes I try to think of the receivers of my ‘chatter’ while understanding that what I write may affect someone in a negative way. I pride myself on being convicted, and helping others get to a place of conviction. This is my way of receiving helpful and inspiring messages from readers and my effort to share messages that I have received from countless people. I pray I am effectively recycling opinions and positions well…

In the Shadow Series’ installments I take every step to push the limits. The Shadow can be quite forthright with his perspectives when he is sharing a friend’s story or his own.

With this understanding, The Shadow is Unleashing…again this month.

I will unleash by keeping it really short and blunt as The Shadow can be:

I DO NOT care to work with women any longer. Particularly in a team environment. I am sick and tired of swimming through horrible cramp-filled periods. Wondering which female is bleeding with a d*mn attitude. Wondering who is not PMS’ing three weeks in advance of her cycle. Wondering who I can approach and get a non-emotional response. Wondering who will not stab her female colleague in the back in my presence, and then expect me to go back and tell the other female: ‘Tasha does not like you. Watch out!’ Wondering who will not breakdown in tears just because she has been reprimanded for watching soap operas online at work. Wondering who will not be so d*mn petty that nothing can get resolved. Wondering who can be so d*mn catty that a business meeting does not get started until after 20 minutes of ‘weekend chatter’. Wondering which female will not act like a d*mn female, and get something done! I can go on…and on.

Also, if I had an opportunity to select my very own work team it would be FULL of male athletes. Athletes value successful uninhibited completion. Strict methodology. Unabated reality. Tangible results. And, not useless brainstorming sessions that only serve as ANOTHER impeding barrier and opportunity to talk…again.

I am sick and tired of being consumed by female emotions and high school activities on the job e.g. envy, jealousy, professional vendettas, and gossip. And, if I have to endure another icebreaker with ridiculous outcomes again I am going to do something to get freaking fired!

I ain’t sorry for this one…considering after checking-in with 6 females today who AGREED with my frustrating sentiments: “I wish I did not have to work with women or for a woman.” –Female

This is where I am at this month. I might just be on the RAG.

Written by The Shadow.

Superhead giving Non-head Advice

Searching for a good talk radio show after 8:00PM is a challenge if you are XM Radio challenged, not a subscriber. So, I resort to searching and searching for something besides conservative and liberal chatter. What I have discovered is that the conservatives got the talk radio department on lock. Literally locked down!

On occasion I come across a station that tickles my fancy momentarily. Last night proved to be a night that I got tickled the more I listened to the Bev Smith Show on WAOK 1380AM-Atlanta. Bev’s guest yesterday was Karrine Steffans. Apparently, Superhead YouTube - Karrine talks about her Nickname:SuperHead
has a new book out: http://www.amazon.com/Vixen-Manual-Find-Seduce Keep/dp/0446582271/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpi_1. How to Find, Seduce & Keep the Man You Want.

Really?

The title got my ongoing attention because I am STILL trying my best to take Ms. Steffans seriously. While I listened to her talk all I could think about was the infamous Superhead Flick. Nothing else entered my mind…but her giving Mr. Marcus some type of head that he could not ‘take’. It is evident that Karrine, via the video, does have some talent – but writing is not a skill I gathered from my continuous viewing of the DVD (got me a black market copy). However, I was able to surmise that she is a Master at giving head. She definitely has EARNED her title: Karrine Steffans, SH.

Go figure.

A hip-hop music video groupie turned porn star now wannabe Ann Launders author is offering up advice on how to keep a man. First, it was Steve Harvey sharing his three time divorce pedigree on relationships; and now we have a “saved” porn star who has failed to comprehend that a whore has to leave town to lose her whore status. Starting anew requires relocation and/or FULL redemption. Is Karrine Steffans Born Again? H*ll no! She a secret telling money hungry leech seeking to get loot-phat off her indiscretions and everyone else’s:

Ja Rule, Jay Z, DMX, Booby Brown, Diddy, Fred Durst, Big Tigger, Shaq, Xzibit, and more

Karrine Steffans, with all her self-acknowledged good intentions - “I wrote this book to give much needed guidance to women just like me.” - should be incapable of imparting advice to any female successfully. The failure should begin before her new ‘how to hook a man guide’ is picked-up from a Border’s bookshelf: Don’t even buy it!

But, who is The Shadow to blast Karrine’s book? Well, The Shadow was stupid enough to read it! Just dumb!

Something she wrote may be worthy and/or Inspiring to an Aspiring Slut.

The Shadow’s idea/suggestion for Karrine will keep her where she belongs: On her knees.

The Shadow Suggestion to Karrine Steffans:

Record a step by step training (DVD) on giving a blow job. Then market and sale to black women since sistas appear to be “afraid of da d*ck”.

Am just saying…

And, to close with a possible spark-flying question:

Why are so many black women so resistant to giving head?

(Question comes from black male concerns that are discussed by married and single black men)

The Shadow from the Shadow Series.

http://rebellioussacrifice.blogspot.com/

Not another Cheating Discussion…

When I created The Shadow Series blogspot I envisioned it being a public forum for men and women to communicate about the complex issues men face with women. That has presented itself in various forms i.e. marriage, dating, sexual intercourse, differences in the genders’ thought processes, etc. Much of what is here (the blog entries) have stayed true to my vision. I am thankful for that considering The Shadow is only trying to stimulate dialogue that will be useful for both male and females.

The only criticism The Shadow has as the creator is the amount of back and forth men/women do concerning one topic:

CHEATING

While I am not amazed that we care so much about this heated conversation piece; I am somewhat burned out on it. Perhaps, it is because women just don’t get it.

To bring finality to the Cheating Discussion once and for all on The Shadow Series please read the brief statement (below) The Shadow made in an email correspondence then scroll down to the Comment icon, click on it, and read the feedback that was generated from The Shadow’s Closing Argument.

“Let me be clear, a man will cheat for NO REASON AT ALL. Life could be GREAT on the home front. Dynamic. Lovely. EVERYTHING good. Including the same old stale booty from his wife. BUT, the man will cheat anyway. The best of us have done it. Bill Cosby, Bill Clinton, and more. Probably a person reading Dad has stepped out on Momma. It has nothing to do with wanting an upgrade. Heck, The Shadow has cheated with women who he did not want to bang missionary. Why? Their face was not pleasing to him. ‘No, let me hit it from the back.’ LOL!”

The Shadow has said this time and time again…to the same reader/respondents (females) – but they still don’t get it. Or, perhaps they are living on another planet.

-The Shadow

Cheating: Could it be deserved?

"If we're going to point fingers at men behaving badly, we have to take a look at the women's behavior that may provoke it." -Wendy Atterberry

http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/06/17/tf.is.cheating.ever.deserved/index.html

Cheating

I like the way Atterberry addressed the topic. I am certain there are women reading who believe a man should NEVER cheat. However, some women are the impetus of the cheating. Yes, it is actually the female's fault in some cases.

-The Shadow

Is the Cookie Really that Precious?

The Shadow has been trying to understand something every since he started having sex. In order to not prolong your interest he will just jump right into it. Not into some booty but into a man’s ongoing dilemma:

Why in the world do women think that giving up there cookie/biscuit means that they have just ‘honored’ the selected man? Passed on a priceless artifact?

The Shadow does acknowledge that having sex supposedly means something more to females. Yeah, right! They may just be making that up so that they will not feel cheap.

The Shadow wants to put women on notice: Giving it up to a man may indicate something special to you – but it does not mean a damn thing to most men. Actually, men can care less about the complexities women may have experienced around making the decision to prop-up her legs or to get down on her knees and palm of her hands (just read some research that indicates that more women prefer The Doggie Style – so non-intimate).

The Shadow and his cohorts (other perplexed men) also are not thinking that they are ‘special’ because a young lady had sex with them. Men see it as two people that decided to behave like the animals that humans are. Unrestricted. In the flesh!

Honor and prestige are certainly not what men feel when the female leaves satisfied (MOST research suggests that women are RARELY satisfied with sex).

So my question, phrased in a more DIRECT way:

What is it about a woman’s vagina that elevates it to an exclusive category?

The Shadow would like for women to know that just because she had sex with a man it does not mean that he sees it as the best thing that has ever happened to him. Women must understand this! Men see it as another ‘piece’ that he got. An encounter. Not a multi-million dollar prize.

So, The Shadow concludes with a request:

Ladies, please know that the value of your cookie is not of extreme value to many men. If you value it that much I suggest you only give that platinum pu**y to He who is truly Worthy.

Written by The Shadow, the voice of men who want to be bluntly honest with his feelings.

*If I generalized too much for the men reading - my message to the men:

Please stop lying like you have never been the man I am speaking about.