Role Reversal

Please watch the video clip. I found it quite interesting and definitely on-point with what The Shadow and the readers have discussed before.

The roles have been haphazardly and purposely distorted.

Traditionalism has its place when the elements are 'together'. The further we stray from what worked the more we fall deeper and deeper into the worldly abyss of relationship conflict. Recall how much we say, 'music was once good.' 'I wish things were like they use to be.' There is something to our longing for what once was, Tradition. I promise you, if I could wave a magic wond and restore the goods of the past I would in a heart beat. i was not made for what we have today...

http://www.rachaelrayshow.com/show/segments/view/real-life-emmad-menem-marriages/

-The Shadow

Sharing was Once Okay

Before we enrolled in kindergarten we should have known the importance of sharing. Right? I recall the numerous pleas my mother made for me to share with my brother and sister: “Brian, you know you are suppose to share.” I also remember how I begrudgingly shared my Salvation Army toys and grandma prepared food with them. It was a much more difficult task for me when moneyless friends surprisingly appeared as the ice cream truck clunkered through the neighborhood hocking expired ice cream. So much for my two Blue Bunny Strawberry Shortcakes! Had to give one to Mookie!

Recently, I mentioned to a friend: “Black women may want to consider sharing the remaining good black men. She may also want to contemplate dating outside her race or not date at all.” I supported my statement with the following information.

*At midyear 2008, there were 4,777 black male inmates per 100,000 U.S. residents being held in state or federal prison and local jails, compared to 1,760 Hispanic male inmates per 100,000 U.S. residents and 727 white male inmates per 100,000 U.S. residents. The rate for black males is expected to climb as it has for years.

*The statistics reveal that less than 1/3 of black males that enroll in college graduate within 6 years and that black women out number black men by a factor of nearly 2:1 in college. 2:1 appears to be a small factor. However, when one considers the imprisonment rate for black men the 2:1 factor becomes considerably significant.

*While African Americans comprise 13.5% of the U.S. Population, 43% of all murder victims in 2007 were African American, 93% of whom were killed by African Americans.

The numbers are not alarming to me at all! For years now, I have been sadly aware that black men are entering Uncle Sam’s and private corporation’s penitentiaries by the numbers, that black men are rare novelties on college campuses, and that black men are slaughtering each other over foolishness e.g. No Snitching Rule.

With this understanding, I have come to the conclusion that black women have some tough decisions to make. Some are already prepared to face reality: “And if by chance I run into the love of my life and he knocks me off my feet, is able to provide for his family, raise and lead our children in a positive direction, and love me with all his might, treats me like the queen that I am, I will not have a problem with the fact that it may not be a brother!!!” –Sherri Rushing

I conclude with a question that immediately prompt my friend to boldly exclaim, “I ain’t sharing no man.”

Really? One, she may be sharing him now – and not know it. Two, she may eat that knee-jerk response sooner rather than later. That’s if she’s unwilling to date outside her race or enjoys going to bed alone for the long term.

Question:

Ladies, are you willing to SHARE a good black man if the circumstances are beneficial to you in some capacity?

-The Shadow

http://touchingtrulytouching.blogspot.com/

Female Emotionalism in the Workplace: Menstruation and Cattiness

Picture taken from the 1939 film, The Women.

Believe it or not, I tip-toe with my commentary. Sometimes I try to think of the receivers of my ‘chatter’ while understanding that what I write may affect someone in a negative way. I pride myself on being convicted, and helping others get to a place of conviction. This is my way of receiving helpful and inspiring messages from readers and my effort to share messages that I have received from countless people. I pray I am effectively recycling opinions and positions well…

In the Shadow Series’ installments I take every step to push the limits. The Shadow can be quite forthright with his perspectives when he is sharing a friend’s story or his own.

With this understanding, The Shadow is Unleashing…again this month.

I will unleash by keeping it really short and blunt as The Shadow can be:

I DO NOT care to work with women any longer. Particularly in a team environment. I am sick and tired of swimming through horrible cramp-filled periods. Wondering which female is bleeding with a d*mn attitude. Wondering who is not PMS’ing three weeks in advance of her cycle. Wondering who I can approach and get a non-emotional response. Wondering who will not stab her female colleague in the back in my presence, and then expect me to go back and tell the other female: ‘Tasha does not like you. Watch out!’ Wondering who will not breakdown in tears just because she has been reprimanded for watching soap operas online at work. Wondering who will not be so d*mn petty that nothing can get resolved. Wondering who can be so d*mn catty that a business meeting does not get started until after 20 minutes of ‘weekend chatter’. Wondering which female will not act like a d*mn female, and get something done! I can go on…and on.

Also, if I had an opportunity to select my very own work team it would be FULL of male athletes. Athletes value successful uninhibited completion. Strict methodology. Unabated reality. Tangible results. And, not useless brainstorming sessions that only serve as ANOTHER impeding barrier and opportunity to talk…again.

I am sick and tired of being consumed by female emotions and high school activities on the job e.g. envy, jealousy, professional vendettas, and gossip. And, if I have to endure another icebreaker with ridiculous outcomes again I am going to do something to get freaking fired!

I ain’t sorry for this one…considering after checking-in with 6 females today who AGREED with my frustrating sentiments: “I wish I did not have to work with women or for a woman.” –Female

This is where I am at this month. I might just be on the RAG.

Written by The Shadow.

Superhead giving Non-head Advice

Searching for a good talk radio show after 8:00PM is a challenge if you are XM Radio challenged, not a subscriber. So, I resort to searching and searching for something besides conservative and liberal chatter. What I have discovered is that the conservatives got the talk radio department on lock. Literally locked down!

On occasion I come across a station that tickles my fancy momentarily. Last night proved to be a night that I got tickled the more I listened to the Bev Smith Show on WAOK 1380AM-Atlanta. Bev’s guest yesterday was Karrine Steffans. Apparently, Superhead YouTube - Karrine talks about her Nickname:SuperHead
has a new book out: http://www.amazon.com/Vixen-Manual-Find-Seduce Keep/dp/0446582271/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpi_1. How to Find, Seduce & Keep the Man You Want.

Really?

The title got my ongoing attention because I am STILL trying my best to take Ms. Steffans seriously. While I listened to her talk all I could think about was the infamous Superhead Flick. Nothing else entered my mind…but her giving Mr. Marcus some type of head that he could not ‘take’. It is evident that Karrine, via the video, does have some talent – but writing is not a skill I gathered from my continuous viewing of the DVD (got me a black market copy). However, I was able to surmise that she is a Master at giving head. She definitely has EARNED her title: Karrine Steffans, SH.

Go figure.

A hip-hop music video groupie turned porn star now wannabe Ann Launders author is offering up advice on how to keep a man. First, it was Steve Harvey sharing his three time divorce pedigree on relationships; and now we have a “saved” porn star who has failed to comprehend that a whore has to leave town to lose her whore status. Starting anew requires relocation and/or FULL redemption. Is Karrine Steffans Born Again? H*ll no! She a secret telling money hungry leech seeking to get loot-phat off her indiscretions and everyone else’s:

Ja Rule, Jay Z, DMX, Booby Brown, Diddy, Fred Durst, Big Tigger, Shaq, Xzibit, and more

Karrine Steffans, with all her self-acknowledged good intentions - “I wrote this book to give much needed guidance to women just like me.” - should be incapable of imparting advice to any female successfully. The failure should begin before her new ‘how to hook a man guide’ is picked-up from a Border’s bookshelf: Don’t even buy it!

But, who is The Shadow to blast Karrine’s book? Well, The Shadow was stupid enough to read it! Just dumb!

Something she wrote may be worthy and/or Inspiring to an Aspiring Slut.

The Shadow’s idea/suggestion for Karrine will keep her where she belongs: On her knees.

The Shadow Suggestion to Karrine Steffans:

Record a step by step training (DVD) on giving a blow job. Then market and sale to black women since sistas appear to be “afraid of da d*ck”.

Am just saying…

And, to close with a possible spark-flying question:

Why are so many black women so resistant to giving head?

(Question comes from black male concerns that are discussed by married and single black men)

The Shadow from the Shadow Series.

http://rebellioussacrifice.blogspot.com/

Not another Cheating Discussion…

When I created The Shadow Series blogspot I envisioned it being a public forum for men and women to communicate about the complex issues men face with women. That has presented itself in various forms i.e. marriage, dating, sexual intercourse, differences in the genders’ thought processes, etc. Much of what is here (the blog entries) have stayed true to my vision. I am thankful for that considering The Shadow is only trying to stimulate dialogue that will be useful for both male and females.

The only criticism The Shadow has as the creator is the amount of back and forth men/women do concerning one topic:

CHEATING

While I am not amazed that we care so much about this heated conversation piece; I am somewhat burned out on it. Perhaps, it is because women just don’t get it.

To bring finality to the Cheating Discussion once and for all on The Shadow Series please read the brief statement (below) The Shadow made in an email correspondence then scroll down to the Comment icon, click on it, and read the feedback that was generated from The Shadow’s Closing Argument.

“Let me be clear, a man will cheat for NO REASON AT ALL. Life could be GREAT on the home front. Dynamic. Lovely. EVERYTHING good. Including the same old stale booty from his wife. BUT, the man will cheat anyway. The best of us have done it. Bill Cosby, Bill Clinton, and more. Probably a person reading Dad has stepped out on Momma. It has nothing to do with wanting an upgrade. Heck, The Shadow has cheated with women who he did not want to bang missionary. Why? Their face was not pleasing to him. ‘No, let me hit it from the back.’ LOL!”

The Shadow has said this time and time again…to the same reader/respondents (females) – but they still don’t get it. Or, perhaps they are living on another planet.

-The Shadow